Meanwhile, according to the data of Dhaka's two city corporations and the district registrar's office, a total of 13,288 divorce applications came in 2022. Among them, the number of divorce applications in South City Corporation is 7 thousand 698. On the other hand, 5 thousand 590 divorce applications have been received in North City Corporation. As a result, 37 families are breaking up in Dhaka every day.
In almost all the petitions, the reason for divorce is the lack of relationship between the husband and the wife. Apart from this, other reasons include family quarrels, physical and mental abuse, extramarital affairs, dowry, drug abuse, separation from expatriate husband, sexual impotence, suspicion, indifference, personality conflict and other allegations.
When asked about the increase in the divorce rate in the country, Dhaka University's social welfare and research institute teacher and social and crime expert Dr. Touhidul Haque told Manabzamin, the education or discussions that a woman or a man should know socially or academically to form a family through marriage are not available in our country. This is the first obstacle to having a healthy relationship.
He said that if you want to live together, you have to control your own likes and dislikes to create a united like.
A joint decision has to be made. Sometimes a married man or woman cannot reach this state. Sometimes women or men think that what I say will happen. In families in our country, the opinion of the earner is usually given more priority or imposed by him. And in families where both husband and wife are involved in earning, both want to have an opinion. Since we have been influenced by a patriarchal attitude or system for a long time, even if we listen to women's opinions, sometimes patriarchal attitudes work to a greater extent in making decisions due to social status. And then the distance between them is created. Who is older in rank, who is younger or who is ahead or behind in terms of family position then these issues come to the fore. Dr. Touhidul Haque said, currently those who are forming a family through marriage have less mentality of giving up and avoiding minor mistakes. It becomes a matter of importance to them whether or not their own issue is important.
When consumerism affects a relationship, it becomes difficult to sustain that relationship. And when the issue of extramarital affairs adds a new dimension to such reality, the rate of divorce increases. Nowadays, mutual suspicion, with whom one is Facebooking, with whom one is communicating on WhatsApp are increasing the number of divorces.
He said, earlier there was misunderstanding or physical and mental abuse in our family. But at the end of the day they calculated that I would not leave him or I would try to convince him. The two families used to settle the misunderstanding. But the present reality is different. Now with a little misunderstanding both men and women think that I have no problem in earning. So why should I stay with him?
